You come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.
You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of a day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Because of how you Reacted. If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off! Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them? Who Cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. The opposite of Proactive would be Reactive, which this principle heavily stresses that we should be Proactive and definitely not Reactive.
Proactive: — Bottle of Water — Shake it violently — Bubbles come, bubbles go, no bubbles — Water does not burst forth after many times of shaking — No bubbles. Reactive: — Bottle of Coke — Shake it a bit — Bubbles come, bubbles stay — Shake it violently — Much Bubbles come, much bubbles stay — Bottle of Coke explodes and coke comes bursting forth.
Actually, the example of imagining bubbles as anger and comparing a bottle of water against a bottle of coke is not exactly very good, since shaking a bottle of water will still produce bubbles, just that the bubbles subside almost immediately and would never cause the bottle of water to burst. At first I thought Mika is a girl. We have been together for more than 3 years and frankly speaking, we went through a lot of rough times in the past. Deimos the Destroyer In the past, I have wreaked many non-organic thingies and I deeply regret it.
Those thingies certainly did not offend me at all and are of course innocent thingies, but in the end they end up in pieces due to my volatile nature back then. We somewhat patched it up with some duct tape later. Would update with screenies later. Luckily for us she met a nice Indian technician dude who replaced it for her without any extra charge.
Miraculously, there was not a single scratch on my elbow — Many more poor innocent thingies. May they rest in pieces? Deimos — Evolved Now, I am much less of a short fuse compared to last time. I am very glad I have changed for the better, as our relationship certainly would not hold out much longer had I continued with my destructive behavior and volatile nature.
Old Habits Die Hard Unfortunately, old habits die hard, thus on rare occasions I still lose partial control and out burst a bit, kinda like blurting out various offensive and unfriendly words. Good thing is that I am able to realize my error almost immediately, hence cutting off the flow of verbal attacks. By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's take an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. I use all of these principles in a professional workplace classroom but especially respect. I have always been taught to give respect…. For instance, when the housing market in a certain region is flooded with homes for sale, sellers drop the price to attract a buyer.
However, single homes for sale in exclusive neighborhoods might have more potential buyers than sellers. In these instances, the price of the home rises. The Principle of Self-Interested Behavior: Theory suggests people behave in a mannerism that is most beneficial for them. The Principle of Two-Sided Transactions: Theory suggests there are two perspectives or positions in every situation.
The Signaling Principle: Theory suggests people make assumptions based on actions…. This is the most important for a variety of reasons.
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